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Isn't it amazing how the more things change, the more they stay the same? I am guilty of thinking that my problems, challenges, concerns are unique to me (maybe that's a self-centered thing, who knows?)
But it seems as if mankind has been struggling for eons to find their way and make sense of the world.
I suppose there's some comfort in knowing we aren't alone - we aren't the first, and we won't be the last to struggle with life's mysteries and ordeals.
6 comments on "Twenty years from now......" mark twain
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The struggles you are having are unique to you because of the way you feel about them. No one will have the exact feelings and experience or lessons learned than you do. The scenario is not new however. Clear back to biblical times there was mention of love lost, audultry, grief, loneliness, anger, divorce.... Adam and Eve set us up for our wonderful roller coaster of life. God intened us to have someone so it is in our nature to want to be loved by someone. Maybe someday we will find our Adam! Take care.
What if there is no Adam out there? How do we know when to give up that dream and settle for less?
You are right, of course, in that what you are going through and are feeling are not unique to you nor are they new. However, to YOU they are! Therefore, thinking about them and dealing with them is what you have to do to survive and get the best out of life...that doesn't make you self-centered unless you believe and act as if you are the only person selected to ride the waves of life. All living creatures learn, strive, fail, and witness what life has in store for them. They must be aware of what is around them to co-exist and/or thrive, but they must also take care of themselves and follow their destiny.
Destiny? How does one ever know? What if the choice we make - or don't make now - haunts us? Having just given away 27 years of my life to a person who is now a stranger, I don't have twenty more years to spare. Do we choose for now and who we are now and how we feel now, or do we choose for later, who we think we'll be later, how we think we'll feel later? Think I'll post on these very thoughts.
Such a conundrum--
I re-read your post and hope that you are doing well. Just hang in there. I know that it is tough on the kids and you as well. Divorce is so hard. Just remember to be there for them and listen. No matter what age kids are they have to always be able to vent and share there emotions and feelings. One thing that I found myself doing in the begining was downing my other half to them and I immediately stopped. This made me look like a fool and hurt my kids who love there father dearly no matter how bad I thought he was they have respect and love that I need to consider. So that is something to think about. It makes us the mature adult. Kids have problems processing this stuff. It becomes a lot of baggage. Take care of yourself and your family there really is LOVE out there. I know you will find it.
In my case, its hubby who is downing me to my grown children. Everyone tells me they will come around...guess we'll see.
As for the love thing? I'm realizing more and more I have no clue what it is or how you know it when it comes around.