"A life unexamined is not worth living." Courtesy of 24-7.
I feel like I have dissected my life, examined it from every angle using every method know to mankind, put it through the rigors of testing to extremes - and I still don't have a clue.
I've been encouraged to listen to my heart and trust my instincts - and if I fail, it only means I haven't involved my heart and instincts long enough........I like this way of thinking! (thanks again 24-7)
I have my brain yelling in my left ear, my instincts whispering in my right ear - all while my heart thumps gently in my chest, so full of love I think it just may burst.
After enough reflection that even the sun is wearing shades
- I've come to the realization that people hide behind the "if onlys", the "should haves", the "what will people think" trains of thought when they don't want to focus on the real issues at hand.
Doing nothing is easy - it's doing something that is hard.
If your spouse can't stand your touch, hiding behind that gold ring and doing nothing is a hell of a lot easier than doing the serious soul-searching on both parts to get to the core of the problem.
If you wake up miserable every morning and dread going home at night, instead of thinking "if only things were different" why not do something to make things different?
If you realize you are no longer in love, doing nothing is easy....taking the steps necessary to free both yourself and your spouse (and even the kids) is HARD.
It seems we change and evolve in different ways than our partners and we end up being two total strangers stuck in a forever commitment with a family. Who is exactly is benefitting from this committment when no one is happy?
Those of you who think the kids are the reason to stay married - consider this........do you want your children to think the relationship you have with your spouse is how relationships are supposed to be? Children mimic what they know. Do right by everyone involved and give them the greatest gift of all - your happiness. Two happy parents apart trump two unhappy parents together any day of the week.
Wow ---- a random and rambling post if I ever saw one......hope I don't wear anyone out with this one.
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Great post Queenie! Funny... as rambling as you were.. I understood every word and agree.
You should be worried if you followed......did you take your medication today?
I feel like one of those frog's in Science that got dissected.........never could figure out why I needed to know what the inside of a frog looked like in a classroom.....I saw plenty of insides when they were squished on the road. (And yes, I did take my medication today)
Queenie.. you are walking a fine line talking to a frogfenatic about squished frogs on the road and disecting them to boot. And I am worried because I so "toadally" get you and I also took my meds
Is your padded cell any better than mine? LOL
Oops....this is the second major idiot moment tonight.......sorry about the frog thing. I didn't put two and two together - or if I did, it didn't add up. Anyway, my padded cell is on the market. If my cell sales, can I come share your cell?
Delirium is setting in........but I have to say, I have smiled and chuckled quite a bit this evening. Does it look bad at the cell check-in to put blogster friends down as possible visitors?
Thank you.
q, i'm humbled you credited me. to set the record straight though, socrates deserves the credit for the life unexamined quote and philosophy. the other stuff is from my life and also reading the book "women who run with the wolves" by clarissa pinkola estes, a real eye opener.
The first thing I want to do is apologize for sometimes commenting so late on your posts. True, I do tend to fall behind at times but, for some reason, I am not getting notifications of your posts from Blogster. I do get them in my regular email, but that is where I am the most behind! I have over 500 un-opened GOOD emails in there, with over 3000 pieces of junk mail I want to delete. So, I keep up with posts a lot better with notifications "on site", but I don't get them for your posts. I will have to look into this.
Anyway, back to the post...it's a real good one, I must add.
Dissecting, knowing the insides...it's not just for the visual, it's to understand how the insides work and how they relate to other functions. Ah, yes, you already know that. Just as you were asked, or forced, to look at and examine the insides of a frog (sorry, froggy), you learn that all life has insides...organs, bones, nerves, etc., that connect, work independently, and work together to maintain life and functioning. As each day, experience, lesson gets added, the insides absorb it and either use it, abuse it, or dispose of it...all of which still has an effect. So, with you and your insides...they are those organs, bones, and nerves, too, all working independently and together, and they maintain your life and are affected by all you encounter in life. Many of the results lead to who and what you are, how you think, how you feel. So, if you dissect to analyze, you may come to a better understanding of yourself, recognize strengths and weaknesses, and know what may need changing, eliminating, or enhancing.